Matt and I finally took the FOCCUS “test” yesterday, and boy, all I can is, it’s a doozy.
The long questionnaire was filled with all those burning questions that many of us may have been too afraid to ask our significant other. From financial responsibilities to raising your children in the Catholic faith, it touched all aspects of life. Below are some that stood out to me:
“You are happy with the domestic roles that you and your fiancé have chosen” (agree). “Marriage is the only way you will be truly happy in your life” (disagree). “I have had homosexual tendencies towards members of the same sex, and I’m afraid it will ruin my future marriage” (disagree…wow, what a question).
After taking the time to review the questions that we had to agree/disagree with, I have come to the conclusion that talking about these things is WAY SO IMPORTANT before you get married. Soon we will be meeting with the FOCCUS couple to learn the results.
One thing I do want to discuss with the couple that we will be meeting with is how they got about making their new house or apartment their “home.” Now that Matt is in the new place, and I’ve got some of my things in too, I expected that I would feel comfortable being there. However, I’m just not. It’s cold, I can’t get the Bravo channel, and sometimes I just want to lay in bed and read (my bed!). Most of the time I just can’t wait to get back to my parent’s house (yes, I’m 27 and still living with my parents. You got a problem with that?) and just relax there.
Sigh. What would you suggest I do to become more comfortable in the new place? I need some advice! (Mainly because I’m not getting any younger!)
-Amy
P.S. I lost five pounds! At least, I think I did. I guess I should have weighed myself before I started this whole regime, huh? Either way, wedding dress here I come!
Music playing while writing this: “A Kiss to Build a Dream on” by Louis Armstrong
